It's around this time of year, that the usual merriments begin and many are looking forward to spending time with their loved ones to celebrate the season of good will towards each other and the whole of mankind. What is often obscured from view, is that for some, it can also be a time that brings much sadness, anxiety and emotional pain. Many will find themselves homeless, without the happy family, without friends and in solitude. Many feel a heavy sadness as they remember happier times, with those who have long passed. We are led to feel that anything less than a perfectly happy and harmonious Christmas, is just an indication of failure: a failure on our part, the part of others, the economy, or our personal situation.
But what if there was a way to overcome this? to feel blessed, peaceful and joyful? no matter what your present situation? I believe that I can help you on your way here in this post, and one answer at least, if practiced (and it might take some practice), is to take a deep look at your personal feelings of gratitude.
When someone offers you a helping hand, do you accept? or do you feel uncomfortable with that? When life moves in your favour, do you take the time to really appreciate it? or do you begin to question when this fortuitous time will end? do you become suspicious of the gifts and favours you receive and immediately begin to wonder what someone wants in return? When someone pays you a compliment, or does something nice for you, do you feel awkward and uncomfortable? Time and again, you make small wins, see glimmers of possibility, but never allow yourself to open up to those really big wishes, for fear of being disappointed or making a fool of yourself. Is this you? Yes? then without realising it, your attitude is getting in the way of your ability to feel true gratitude for everything in your life. You are blocking your own ability to receive the gifts from the universe.
Let me explain a little about what I mean here: Of course, we all feel touched when someone pays us a kindness, does us a favour, supports us and brings us a lovely surprise. It makes us feel just a little bit special, fills our hearts with appreciation. However, if you are the kind of person who immediately begins to think of ways in which you can return the favour, or repay kindness, you have made that gift a burden. this way of thinking and feeling instantly blocks the flow of further ease in your direction.
Gratitude, is the ultimate state of receivership. so next time someone helps you out, or buys you a gift to show their appreciation and love towards you, don't just say thanks and begin plotting a way to repay them. Don't look at the gift and identify who you'll re gift it to next year because it's something that you don't like. Be grateful and touched for the kind gesture and make an effort to appreciate that thing that perhaps you don't like.
This is where the work begins. Accept your gifts with grace. Allow yourself to feel what it feels like to be blessed and honoured by others, by everyone and everything in your life. Try not to turn your gratitude into a burden. Know that you are worthy of receiving, be open to receiving. If you are finding it difficult to generate feelings of gratitude right now, begin to write a list of the things that maybe you take for granted that, if you didn't have them, your life would be much more difficult. Walk a mental mile in the shoes of someone less fortunate.
So, lets take this a step further. If you can only feel grateful for the tangible and material things in your life, the people in your life, you are living in the past. that's a massive statement I know, so I'll try to put it another way: if what you are grateful for are the things you can see, hear, taste, touch or smell, then these things are already known to you and comes from the memory of the known, or record of past knowns. What if you could be grateful for all those unknowns, not yet manifest? then you would be in gratitude in the sweet present moment, not the known past or predictable future. You would then be opening the door to be able to create new directions, new experiences, new futures. If you are open and in gratitude for all possibilities, all potentials for expansion and growth, no matter what your current situation before you can see it, hear it, taste it, touch it, smell it or sense it, you will be living in creation. Live as though what you want for your future life is already here: see your life as you want it, generate mental pictures, feelings, sounds, tastes, smells and spend time each day living in that future world. Then, feel gratitude for it before it even materialises.
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Blessings to you all
Merry Christmas and a peaceful, blissful, joyous 2021.